No one Heals Themselves by Wounding Others

By Psychologist Mamta Saha

During the anti-bullying week in the UK, I wanted to share my insights and advice with my dear readers. Bullying affects everyone involved, and it is hurtful to everyone involved, from the victims of bullying to the witnesses — and even to bullies themselves.

Remember that bullying is never about you.

It is important to remind yourself that you are not the problem. The reason people experience bullying is not because of their sexuality, gender identity, race, appearance, disability, or any other unique factor. The person who is bullying you is the one with the issue, not you. Basically, it’s a reflection of their insecurities, not your flaws. Whatever the situation, bullying is never the right way to solve it, and it is never justifiable.

Even though you may want to, don’t isolate yourself.

I know it may feel like the best thing to do at the time, but it will only make things worse by keeping quiet and can also reduce your self-esteem. Often people who are bullied will understandably see themselves as victims, but it’s important that you look beyond that and don’t let the bullying dictate who you are. There is something incredibly rewarding about having someone that can walk alongside you through a rough phase. Be open to having someone support you through this tough time.

Practise self-love. Every single day.

It is important to acknowledge the feelings and thoughts that come along with
bullying. Be kind to yourself. Talk to yourself gently and practice affirmations every day. Eat nutritiously, exercise daily, and get plenty of rest so you feel healthy and strong. Doing guided meditations can help calm your anxiety and spend plenty of time in nature to heal. In the end, your health and well-being are what matter the most. You must practice self-preservation and protect your mind, body, and soul from getting serious health issues from this.

Ultimately, we need a substantial shift in our mindsets about the impact of bullying on children and adults. I hope that my tips will help you navigate through your tough times. Follow me on Instagram (@saha_mamta) and Facebook (Mamta Saha) for more resources for your well-being. Until then, stay in touch and I look forward to hearing from you! Good luck, dearest readers.

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